Do this today and feel better about your life. Seriously.
07/17/2009 10:54 AM
I just answered an email to someone asking about how
to accept praise and
deal with the nagging feeling of “I’m not enough.” Good thing is that I’ve got
some experience with these goblins. :-)
Here was my response:
There's a "law" that says, what you focus on grows. Right now, I'm
imagining that you're focusing on one side of the story and in
your world it eclipses what is positive.
Good news, is that you can actually train yourself to shift that
and ultimately feel fulfilled and satisfied.
You just gotta pull your head out of your ass. :-)
Here's some tips I've used to own my value and feel satisfied:
EVERYDAY take five minutes to sit down and shut the fuck up. Make
a mental list of all the things that are going well and are benefiting
you (and others).
I usually use a sentence-stem like "I'm grateful for..."
and just fill in the blank. Sometimes it is big (the latest NM
episode that rocked) sometimes it is small (the ice cream
cone after lunch).
When I started doing this it was challenging to find things to be
grateful for. I had trained myself to only see "what is not enough".
This is a practice. Do it daily. I now find that I can sit there
and go on and on and on for the things that make my life amazing.
Next, ask yourself, "What did I do to facilitate that positive event/thing?"
Whatever it is, big or small, own your part.
Just like taking radical responsibility for when the shit hits the
fan in life, take responsibility for the good stuff. For me it
could be, "I'm grateful that Joel Harper was on The New Man.
I was curious about his work so I emailed his publicist and asked
if he would be on the show."
It doesn't have to be monumental. Nonetheless own
your thoughts/actions and SEE that you are RESPONSIBLE.
You get extra points if you do this before you go to sleep at night, too.
There's also a this website which has a ton of easy practices to do.
I highly recommend it.
deal with the nagging feeling of “I’m not enough.” Good thing is that I’ve got
some experience with these goblins. :-)
Here was my response:
There's a "law" that says, what you focus on grows. Right now, I'm
imagining that you're focusing on one side of the story and in
your world it eclipses what is positive.
Good news, is that you can actually train yourself to shift that
and ultimately feel fulfilled and satisfied.
You just gotta pull your head out of your ass. :-)
Here's some tips I've used to own my value and feel satisfied:
EVERYDAY take five minutes to sit down and shut the fuck up. Make
a mental list of all the things that are going well and are benefiting
you (and others).
I usually use a sentence-stem like "I'm grateful for..."
and just fill in the blank. Sometimes it is big (the latest NM
episode that rocked) sometimes it is small (the ice cream
cone after lunch).
When I started doing this it was challenging to find things to be
grateful for. I had trained myself to only see "what is not enough".
This is a practice. Do it daily. I now find that I can sit there
and go on and on and on for the things that make my life amazing.
Next, ask yourself, "What did I do to facilitate that positive event/thing?"
Whatever it is, big or small, own your part.
Just like taking radical responsibility for when the shit hits the
fan in life, take responsibility for the good stuff. For me it
could be, "I'm grateful that Joel Harper was on The New Man.
I was curious about his work so I emailed his publicist and asked
if he would be on the show."
It doesn't have to be monumental. Nonetheless own
your thoughts/actions and SEE that you are RESPONSIBLE.
You get extra points if you do this before you go to sleep at night, too.
There's also a this website which has a ton of easy practices to do.
I highly recommend it.